30 Oct The Best Advice I’ve Ever Been Given // “You’re Average”
Over the past few days, I’ve been wearing a Lokai bracelet. These little bracelets are made with mud from the dead sea [the lowest point on the Earth] and water from Mount Everest [the highest point on Earth]. They represent the balance in between these points and a reminder to stay hopeful in times of trouble and humble in times of success.
As I sipped a glass of wine in the bathtub a few evenings ago, I contemplated what that meant for me [I’m a real Confucius in the bath, I tell you!] It reminded me of the best advice I’ve ever received from my father… That I will [most-likely] be average in all I do.
Now, before you get all in a tizzy… My father was not telling me I am average and will always be that way. He wasn’t telling me that my abilities are average or that I’m just an ‘average person’ and not to try to amount to anything better. Quite the contrary, actually… My father many times told me that I could do whatever I wanted to do if I work hard enough…So with this advice, he wasn’t attacking my abilities, he was giving me a life lesson in pride and gratitude. I remember him saying,
Chandler, you need to know something… In most cases in life, there will always be someone better than you and there will always be someone worse than you. There will always be someone richer than you and poorer than you… someone prettier and uglier… someone fatter and skinnier. You are by no means to ever feel sorry for yourself and by no means ever to think of yourself more highly than others…”
Of all the advice my dad repeated over and over again, he only said that one once… and it has stuck with me.
It’s also advice that I feel my generation needs most.
When you’re at the bottom of the Dead Sea, practice gratitude.
Remember it could be worse and, chances are, someone in this world is experiencing worse. Practice gratitude. Be strong. Continue to love. Remember that you’re never alone. Thinking of others who are worse off than you are, gives you are huge reality check… your situation may not be as bad as it seems. Pray for those who are TRULY at the bottom of the Dead Sea and don’t fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself. It only leads to resentment, anger, hatred, sadness. It also leads to entitlement. Stop expecting that you’ll just get out of it. Stop resenting God for putting you through it. Remember those worse off than you, pick yourself up by the boot straps and begin your climb a little at a time, one day at a time. Have hope that it will get better.
When you’re at the top of Mount Everest, practice humility.
Congratulations. You did it. Remember, though, that you are not the first person who has climbed Mount Everest and you won’t be the last. It’s an incredible accomplishment, whatever you have done. Take it. Learn from it. Grow with it. Help others achieve it too. You are on the top of the world, so you are in a great position to reach your hand out and help others as they climb. Remember that, while your accomplishment is great, you didn’t do it alone and your abilities are given to you by your creator. Give thanks for the blessings and remember that you are no better than anyone else because of this accomplishment… you are, simply, more accomplished. Everyone else was made by the same creator, too. Take your blessings and extend them to others. THAT is truly greatness.
When you’re in the middle, practice them both.
You may not have climbed Mount Everest, but you are better off than many. Remember that you are perfect the way you are. Work your hardest. Try your best. Expect nothing. Don’t cheat. You are not the worst and you are not the best. Give thanks for your blessings and pray for others.
Work hard, be grateful, remain humble.