11 Mar 6 Ways Married Couples can Upgrade their Date Nights
In the movie, Date Night, Steve Carrell and Tina Fey portray “The Fosters”, a couple who have become stuck in a rut. They aim to resuscitate their marriage by becoming more impulsive. Things soon go awry in a dangerous – yet hilarious – turn of events. Watch the trailor here.
In Date Night, The Fosters’ plan suffered from poor execution, but they had the right idea! My husband and I have been together for our entire adult lives. When you’re in a long-term relationship, it takes effort to discover new ways to engage with and surprise each other. But it’s well worth it when you’re in it for the long haul!
One way that we keep the excitement going is to occasionally forego the predictable dinner-and-a-movie dates for more unique outings. We research new activities to enjoy together and just dive in.
Sometimes, we choose a new adventure, and it is a hit. Other times, we pick a dud – and that’s okay as long as we’re still trying! There have even been instances where the experience is so absurd that we can’t help but laugh at the situation. Whatever happens, each shared experience sparks communication, strengthens our bond, and keeps things fresh!
If your relationship could use a little more sizzle, it may be time to upgrade your date nights! With that in mind, here are a few ideas for ways to create stimulating dates with your partner.
Sensual Shopping Spree
Many women update their wardrobes seasonally with new clothes, shoes, and bags. Why not do the same when it comes to your arsenal of amorous tools? Next time you and your partner plan a date night, consider spending the evening browsing around your local lingerie boutique. Take a leisurely walk through the store together and take turns picking out romantic apparel, bed linens, candles, massage oils, and more! Take the opportunity to learn new things about each other and purchase something you can enjoy as a couple. That’s one investment that will pay high dividends!
The next time you and your better half are in the mood for a movie, check out your local drive-in theater. You will have to do some research to find an outdoor theater in your region, and you’ll likely need to travel farther than you would if you were visiting your neighborhood cinema. But it’s worth going the distance for a date night packed with nostalgia and romance. Plus, some drive-in theaters will allow you to bring in your own snacks. If so, pack a picnic of your favorite treats and enjoy the show!
Parks and Recreation
They say that happy couples gain weight, but that does not have to hold true for you! Consider planning dates with your partner that support a healthy lifestyle. Hiking, swimming, skating, or training for and running a race together are all great ways to bank quality time and improve your health. Choosing an active lifestyle as a couple can increase your energy so that you can do even more fun things together. Bonus – it feels great to know that your spouse wants to stay fit and look good just for you!
Getting Back to Nature
When my husband and I went on a 4-day hiking and camping trip in Peru, it was definitely out of my comfort zone. But, I’m so glad that we went because it allowed us to connect without any distractions. Fortunately, you don’t have to leave the country to get back to nature and achieve intimacy. For your next lovers’ adventure, plan an overnight camping trip, and make a commitment to remain unplugged from your devices. Give one another your undivided attention and get cozy under the stars!
For your next dinner date, add a twist. Sign up for a couples cooking class and learn a new recipe together. Cooking schools often offer theme nights featuring foods from various cultures from around the world. If you like it, consider signing up for a cooking subscription that will allow you to cook meals together at home. The meal subscription services will ship the ingredients and detailed instructions in an insulated container. Unbox your culinary adventure, pump up your romantic playlist, and get saucy! Exploring different cuisines can definitely spice up your date night.
Lots of couples give each other massages. In theory, this act of service can set the stage for a sultry date night. But, sometimes plans can go terribly wrong. I’ve heard of cases in which deciding who receives the massage first sucked the romance right out of the room. Another common complaint that echoes in married circles is that he or she is “just not doing it right.” Couples may resort to begging, bargaining, or backing out altogether, which isn’t fun for anyone. But there is a simple solution. Book a couples massage! Most spas offer massages in double-occupancy rooms. Soft music, soothing aromas, and therapeutic treatments are enough to relax any twosome. Both partners enjoy the benefit of being pampered simultaneously, and neither person ends up with sore phalanges!
Will you try something new with your mate on your next date night? Comment and join the discussion.