27 Dec Making a New Year’s Resolution for 2018
As I get older, I love the transition into a new year. I love being able to reflect on the past year and focus on ways to better myself in the next one. [Side note: I also REALLY love the way your house looks and feels when all the Christmas decorations come down – minimalistic, clean and new.] In the past, for my resolutions, I had all these abstract ideas and good intentions of making a commitment to be someone better, and there was always some number I wanted to to see on the scale. I typically would get to March and think, “Well… darn. That didn’t happen, did it?” Over the past couple of years, I’ve adopted a new strategy to create and stick to a well-rounded new year’s resolution throughout the entire year, and it’s actually worked!
The reality is, we should be committing ourselves to growth and betterment year round, but the beginning of a year gives us a fresh start, a new perspective, perhaps, and the perfect opportunity to reflect on the people we were last year and how we can make those people better. When thinking about 2018, I’m, once again, using this formula to design a resolution that I can apply to my life now and continue over the course of an entire year. This formula, coupled with a plan of action when I fall off the wagon [I call that the grace plan], makes for a much higher likelihood that my lifestyle change will stick around for good.
Here’s the new year’s resolution formula:
We choose a new year’s resolution to focus on the aspects in our lives that we want to grow in. How can we become better? What lifestyle changes can we implement to move forward in some aspect or another? The purpose of The H is For… is to inspire and encourage others to keep this way of thinking at the forefront of our lives. How can we live this life well and make the most of it? It’s kind of like a resolution all year round!
One verse in the Bible that I love is Luke 2:52
Jesus grew in wisdom, in stature, and in favor with God and man.”
There’s only one verse in the Bible that tells us anything about what Jesus was like and how He lived during his young adulthood and adolescence. That’s it. That’s the only verse. It’s our only guide into the man He was between the ages of about 12 and his early 30’s. I grew up attending a summer camp that put a focus on this verse as a model by which to design our lives. [Just FYI…these four categories of growth are what have inspired the 5 H’s of this blog].
So often say we want to model ourselves after Jesus, but it’s hard, sometimes to take a man who was also God and to model our very not-God lives after Him. How do we model our growth as a person who seeks after Him? I believe this verse is an easy template we can use to try to grow into the person we want to become. Isn’t that the heart behind making a new year’s resolution? How will I be a better person this year than I was last year? So, why not use this verse as a template when making your new year’s resolution?
When making a new year’s resolution, I like to pick a way I can resolve to grow in each category:
WISDOM | STATURE | FAVOR WITH GOD | FAVOR WITH MAN
wisdom // How do you want to grow mentally? What do you want to learn more about?
stature // How do you want to grow physically? Find a goal you can con dently reach, add a tiny bit to it to push you out of your comfort zone and stick to it!
favor with God // How do you want to grow spiritually? Don’t let the growth in your relationship with your Creator fall by the wayside in 2017!
favor with man // How do you want to grow relationally? What is one goal you can make to grow in your relationships with your friends and family?
BUT, that’s not all.
You need to plan to fall off the wagon. It’s inevitable, but not the end of the world. As a perfectionist, I used to allow one bad day off my diet to keep me from continuing track on the following day. Jesus’s story is chalk-full of grace. Not only do we need to accept that and extend it to other, but we need to be able to extend that grace to ourselves when we don’t stick to our guns every single day of the year. His mercies for us are new every single morning – Each day in 2018 can a New Year’s Day if you need it to be. What’s important is that you set this resolution as a basis of a year-long priority you’d like to reach and extend yourself an immense amount of grace when you fall short, then start over the next morning.
So, here’s my new year’s resolution for 2018:
My commitment to growing in WISDOM is… to be better informed on the current events happening in the world around me. I’m going to do this by continuing to read up on what’s going on in the world. I’m subscribed to The Skimm, a news source designed for women to skim through and get exactly what they need to know about current events. They send you an email every day and put the news into words that just click! All you have to do is open your inbox and skim. That’s it. Not trying to decide if that article on Facebook is true or not, or trying to wad through various PARTISAN news outlets. It’s the facts. It’s concise. And it’s free. So, for me, it’s easy to commit to. Sign up for it here. I started this last year and I’m sticking to it. Plus, I want to travel to somewhere I haven’t been in 2018 to experience a new culture or new place!
My commitment to growing in STATURE is… to get focused back on living a lifestyle [diet, supplements, wellness practices and exercise] that benefits and heals my autoimmune issues after I have this baby. I want to continue my personal training at Vive twice a week, continue attending a SoulCycle class twice a week and I want to commit to joining my husband on Saturdays at CrossFit when we can make it happen [with two littles]. I want to give my post baby body love and grace! I also want to commit to flossing every day…
My commitment to growing in FAVOR WITH GOD is… to continue reading His word daily and to write another devotional this year. Last year, I committed to reading the entire Bible in the year of 2017 and I ALMOST made it happen. I’m a few weeks behind, so I’m thinking that I will have accomplished this task by the end of January! [Not too shabby]. Once I’m through with that, I’d love to find some amazing devotionals to jump into during the year.
My commitment to growing in FAVOR WITH MAN is… I am committing to embracing the icky side of motherhood. I want to cherish each and every moment of my time in 2018 with my children and allow give myself the grace I need to make it through the day without feeling like I’ve lost myself in the process. Instead of focusing on the fact that I didn’t get an ounces of makeup on or that my hair is in the same bun it’s been in for the last 3 days, I want to focus on the good, sweet and cherished moments of the day with my littles. I resolve to change my perspective when it comes to motherhood and, hopefully, this will make me a much better and present mom. [I also resolve to reach out to each of my friends/family members monthly – even if it’s just a text to check in – to remind them how special and cherished they are to me.]
What’s your New Year’s Resolution? Share it with me here and we can hold each other accountable!