10 Sep Making Mom Friends – Why it’s Important & How to Meet Other Moms
Regardless of what stage of life you were in before you became a mom, there is a huge identity shift that happens when you are finally holding that baby in your arms. I personally was a teacher for the first two years of my son’s life, a job I quit just days before my daughter was born. Quickly I was thrust not only into the life of a mommy of 2, but also into the new identity of being a stay-at-home-mom.
Whether you work in the home, out of the home, or stay at home full time with your kiddos, it is incredible to have a tribe of other mamas to support you in the happy and hectic moments of motherhood. Yes, I have tons of friends from my old job, college, and beyond that aren’t moms, and I wouldn’t trade those friendships for the world. I do, however, love that I can text my mom friends about Paw patrol, poop diapers, and playground dates with an understanding response on the other side.
This tribe didn’t happen overnight, and to be honest, it took a lot of conversations and accountability with my husband to step out of my comfort zone. I don’t generally think of myself as shy, but I have certainly noticed a whole new level of vulnerability as I have become a mom. Eventually, I learned to break the ice, and I am beyond thrilled by the friendships I’ve developed both for myself and my kiddos.
Because there is no guide to motherhood, here are some of my tips and tricks to breaking the ice and making quality mom friends:
- Get out of the house- It seems pretty obvious, but it’s so easy to hide away at home when you’re mom to small children.
- Frequent the kid-friendly spots near your house- for me these were the library for story time, a nearby playground, and the local children’s museum. If you go to these spots regularly, you’ll pick up on who else does too, and it will be easy to strike up a conversation. If you’re not ready to take the plunge and exchange numbers with someone, just plan a meetup at that same spot. Eventually, I had talked to the same moms enough times that I felt comfortable exchanging numbers and planning outings and playdates elsewhere.
- Have an accountability partner- I really wanted to ask two moms for their numbers, but like I said, I was shy. I literally gave my hubby a date to check up on me and see if I’d snagged those numbers, and that gave me the confidence boost I needed.
- Plan a meetup- pick a coffee shop or playground and a standing day and time. Invite a few close friends and make sure they feel comfortable inviting other friends, too. This is an awesome way to meet new mamas in a safe environment.
- Plan a moms-only (or no kids) meetup- one of my favorite parts of the summer is a mama’s swim that I do with some gals from my church. Every Monday night we put the kids to bed and head to a neighborhood pool to swim and chat under the stars. It’s a magical way to have adult conversations and hop in the water without the littles.
- Know that it is more than okay to invite someone over to your house even if it’s not clean. This is real and vulnerable. If I didn’t do this, I would never see anyone, ever!
You’ve got this, mama! Whether you are just beginning your mothering journey or in the trenches of toddlerhood, you are not alone and there are loads of other mamas to cheer you on.