06 Nov Surviving your First Night Away from Baby
Midnight feedings. 3 am diaper changes. 3:30 am cries for reasons you can’t even begin to comprehend. Having a baby changes your entire life, but it can especially impact your nightly routine from bath time to bedtime.
If it’s been weeks (or even months!) since you’ve had a night out for yourself since your child was born, you might be itching to hit the town and have some fun. Even going out with your spouse to dinner can feel like a big event after having a little one.
But, as much as the idea can be enticing, it can also lead to a bit of “mom guilt.”
It’s okay to plan a night out! In fact, it can be a big milestone for both you and your little bundle of joy. So, how can you survive your first night away from your baby without checking in with the sitter every five minutes?
Leave Your Little One With Family
The first time you leave your baby with someone, it’s a good idea to choose a family member or a very close friend you trust. Grandparents are great for the job, and often more than happy to spend some time with their new little grandbaby!
Leaving your baby with a close family member instead of a baby sitter can offer you some peace of mind. You know your child will get the care they need, and be with someone who loves them from head to toe.
Keep It Short and Sweet
Just because you’re going out for a night on the town doesn’t mean you need to stay out all night. If you’re only comfortable with going out to dinner and coming home, that’s exactly what you should do.
Don’t over plan your night out, or it will become more stressful than it needs to be. Instead, decide on one or two things to do, and keep it relatively short. By getting home early, you’ll realize your child is just fine and can be taken care of by others. Then, you can start to plan more nights out, and stay out a bit longer.
It’s Okay to Check-In – Once!
You’re going to worry a little. That’s normal. You’re going to want some peace of mind. That’s also normal!
So, give yourself permission to call and check in once while you’re away. A good rule of thumb is to call around the time your little one goes to bed. That will give you the chance to ask whoever is watching them how things went, and it will give you some comfort knowing your baby is safe and asleep, so you can enjoy yourself.
Your first night away from your child will be a big step. But, it’s one that can be good for both you and your baby. If you’ve been putting off a night away, it’s time to start planning! You’ll benefit from a little relaxation and fun, and it’ll give your baby the chance to interact with someone different. Have fun out there!